How to respond safely to bullying instead of escalating it

When you’re mistreated by a bully, it’s natural for you to feel angry or want to fight back. However, an aggressive reaction can make the situation worse. The safest and most effective response is to stay calm, protect yourself and find support.

Be calm and confident

Bullies often want to get a reaction out of you. If you’re being bullied, stay calm, keep your voice steady and show confidence in your body language. This will take away some of the bully’s power.

Use short, clear statements

Instead of arguing, use short phrases like “That’s not okay” or “Stop.” These simple responses make your boundaries clear without adding fuel to the fire. Avoid insults or threats, which can escalate the situation.

Get support

Tell a teacher, supervisor or trusted adult. Asking for help isn’t “snitching.” It’s protecting yourself and others. If the bullying happens online, block the person, save evidence and report the behaviour to the platform or a trusted adult.

Stick with allies

Stay close to supportive friends and peers. Bullies are less likely to target someone who isn’t alone, and having allies nearby provides both safety and emotional support.

Responding to bullying doesn’t mean fighting back. It means handling the situation safely while asserting your right to be treated with respect.